We are the persons we are today because of the decisions we have made. However, what is equally true is that all of us are the persons we are today because of the decisions we have NOT made. NOT TO DECIDE IS TO DECIDE to be a victim: victim of circumstances, a victim of others, a victim of paralysis. If we don’t decide, someone or some – thing will decide for us.
Many of us don’t see how our apathy is rooted in a victim’s mentality. We just see our excuses. We say, “I WOULD develop my gifts more thoroughly, BUT my friends and family don’t support me. I WOULD pursue a healthier job BUT I NEED the money and security of my present one. I WOULD grow in my relationship with my spouse, BUT my spouse is not interested. I WOULD devote myself more fully to spiritual growth, but I CAN’T find the time. I WOULD realize more of my potential, BUT no one will help me.”